The first time I went on a solo date was spur-of-the-moment. I had a draining week at my first job and needed a change of pace and scenery. So, I took myself to a fancy dinner and then watched a movie.
I thought it would be awkward and scary; instead, it felt liberating and healing. I realized that taking time to be alone and care for myself was something I needed to do more often. Since then, I’ve made it a point to schedule me-time activities on my days off.
I want to share some solo date ideas (most of which I’ve tried) to inspire you to practice self-love. Who knows, your dream date is the one you have with yourself.
1. Dine Out Alone
Eating alone can make you self-conscious, but don’t let that stop you from enjoying good food.
As someone who has dined alone countless times, I’ve realized that most people are so wrapped up in their worlds that they hardly pay attention to those around them.
So, savor every bite of your meal and grab the opportunity to people-watch. You might be surprised at what you can observe and discover about human behavior.
2. Go to the Library
It’s a no-brainer; the library is an ideal place to start if you’re new to the self-dating scene.
There’s just something magical about the scent of books and the serene atmosphere of a library.
So, find a cozy reading nook and get lost in the pages of a book.
3. Treat Yourself to a Spa Day
What could be better than indulging in a luxurious spa day for the ultimate self-care experience? I usually opt for a day pass, so I can spend an entire day getting facials, waxing, and massages.
Alternatively, you can create your spa experience at home with a bubble bath, face mask, and relaxing music.
4. Take a Class
Look for classes to learn a new skill or explore your creative outlets. You can sign up for an in-school or online class, or you can channel-surf on Youtube to find what interests you.
Pick up a new language, brush up on your photography skills, or try your hand at macrame—the possibilities are endless!
5. Watch a Comedy Show
Watching a standup comedy alone allows you to have fun and laugh, without having to cater to anyone’s brand of humor, and without anyone having to cater to yours.
If you’re not having a good time, you can always head home and call it a day, minus the guilt trip.
6. Have a Picnic
You can choose a picture-perfect spot, pack your favorite snacks, and bring a soft blanket.
While soaking up the sun and enjoying the quiet, read a book or listen to some self-help podcasts.
7. See a Movie
Sometimes, you just need to escape reality for a while, and catching a movie in a dimly lit theater is a fantastic way to do just that.
And let’s be honest; popcorn always tastes better at the cinema. It’s even better when you have the whole tub to yourself.
8. Hit the Road
Long drives are wonderful for clearing your head and your car’s engine. Not to mention, they can sharpen your driving skills.
You can pick a scenic route to an unfamiliar destination and discover new sights and experiences.
So, put on your favorite road trip playlist, and let the music be your companion.
9. Attend a Concert
Going to a concert alone allows you to enjoy your favorite music or discover new artists or genres.
The best part is you don’t have to worry about anyone judging your music taste or your dance and singing prowess, in case you get a little too carried away.
If big concerts intimidate you, start in smaller, more intimate venues in your area, featuring local performers.
So, go out of your comfort zone. You never know what unforgettable memories and connections you might make.
10. Take a Hike or Camping Trip
If you’re seeking some quiet introspection and clarity, spend time in the great outdoors. Research nearby trails or parks, pack a picnic lunch, and put on your sunblock!
There are countless studies highlighting the benefits of nature to one’s mental health and well-being, so do yourself a favor!
If you’re venturing further out of the city, keep your loved ones in the loop about your whereabouts.
11. Go Bargain-Hunting
If your wardrobe or home decors need updating, head to your local thrift store or flea market and see what hidden gems you can find.
Not only can you save money, but you can also support sustainable practices.
And don’t forget to bring your comfy shoes, reusable bag, and sense of adventure!
12. Visit a Museum or Art Gallery
If you’re craving artistic or cultural enrichment, visiting a museum or art gallery would be perfect.
As a solo visitor, you can move at your own pace and explore sections that captivate you the most.
Lastly, take advantage of free admissions, special events, and exhibitions.
13. Volunteer at an Animal Shelter
Hundreds of rescue animals deserve affection just as much as you do.
Make a positive impact and give back to your community by volunteering in your local animal shelter.
14. Book a Staycation
Follow this guide when planning a solo staycation:
- Look for nearby hotels, vacation rentals, or bed and breakfasts.
- Pack your essentials.
- Explore local attractions.
- Try a new restaurant.
- Order room service.
If you’re feeling lazy, indulge in activities you don’t have time for in your usual routine, like binge-watching your favorite shows or movies.
The idea is to enjoy your time or treat yourself to some needed rest and relaxation.
15. Dress Up for a Photoshoot
Here’s everything you need for a low-key solo date idea: a smartphone, good lighting, and a bit of imagination.
Have a fun photoshoot at home for a confidence-boosting fix. You’ll get to wear all the pretty dresses that have been gathering dust in your closet. You can also try different makeup looks, outfits, and poses.
I have a feeling you might end up with some fabulous photos for your social media profiles.
16. Visit Your Local Farmer’s Market
Farmer’s markets are always bustling with activity and carry a lively atmosphere.
It’s a superb way to connect with your community and support local businesses while getting fresh and healthy produce.
17. Do Something Outrageous
Tap into your inner daredevil and try an adrenaline-pumping sport, like rock climbing, bungee jumping, or skydiving.
Here are some tips to help you make the most out of your solo adventures:
- Determine your fitness level.
- Research the activity, including risks and safety precautions.
- Select a trusted provider.
Finally, remember to enjoy the experience and celebrate your achievement!
Final Thoughts
Solo dates can give you a much-needed reset from the madness of school, work, or life in general. They offer the perfect opportunities to show kindness to yourself and learn how you deserve to be treated in your future relationships.
Think about not having to compromise or fit your plans around someone else’s schedule. You make the rules, and you can break ’em too!
Showering yourself with self-love is the most amazing gift you can give yourself, so why not give these solo date ideas a try?
